"THE ELEVATOR C" E25
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THIS WEEK: Personal Responsibility vs. guilt
Let's start with the concept of guilt.
Myth or Fact:
Others have the power to make you feel guilty.
Guilt is always about what is happening right now.
There are times when it is impossible to avoid guilty feeling.
People have died or become debilitated when ignoring guilt.
Experiencing guilt will help you improve your life through change.
All of the above are myths.
The facts are these: Guilt
is Self-imposed. No one has the power to make you feel guilt except you.
is Always about non-reality. It isn't about what is. It is about what isn't happening.
is always avoidable. You have a choice to feel guilt or take an action to prevent it.
has never caused death or disability. If you want it, go ahead & enjoy it.
keeps you stuck. It changes nothing for the better. It may make things worse.
My definition of guilt is SIN; Self-Imposed Non-reality.
No matter what another says or what buttons they push only you cause yourself
guilt when you take what they say or do and accept it as reality.
When things aren't the way you want them to be (non-reality) guilt arises.
It is taking an event & turning it around 180 degrees to allow yourself to feel badly.
No one can start or stop you from feeling guilty except you.
Guilt is a non-productive artificially created emotion.
Now for the concept of Personal Responsibility
Definition: Taking action to achieve a purpose; The condition opposite to guilt.
Personal Responsibility moves you to where you want to be.
"It's awful that I'm not spending enough time with my daughter".
"Im not spending enough time with my daughter".
I'm going to have lunch with her in the school cafeteria at least twice a month and
be her scout troop leader so we spend more time together".
Your children are watching television show you don't want them to see.
It's not government's job to censor the programs it's yours to monitor your children.
When you want to prevent or rid yourself of guilt
REDEFINE IT &
TAKE THE NECESSARY ACTIONS TO CHANGE TO THE REALITY YOU WANT.
As I step off this Elevator I can say that I remain, as always, guilt-free. Marta
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