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THIS WEEK: TRUST: A PARADIGM SHIFT part 2 of 3
Your best friend is always late. She is also very supportive. When she learns you need a ride to a very important meeting she assures you that she will be on time.
A skunk doesn't change what it is just because it wants to no matter how strong the motivation. REALITY DOESN'T CHANGE LIKE THAT
TRUST: THE DILEMMA You want to TRUST!
When a traditional definition limits your choices to:
half the possibilities (positive values only)
things over whom we have no control (other people)
you're in a bind faced with a dilemma.
Because you want to trust, when someone clearly & consistently lies to you -
you ignore the negative reality & give them another chance by
asking a question hoping this time they will, this time, tell you the truth.
Then when they lie to you again you are angry with them & yourself.
Instead of ignoring the negative reality they have presented to you
time & time again, face it & tell yourself that you trust that they will lie to you.
You then have the option to not ask the question
TRUST: THE CONFLICT
Instead of accepting her offer of a ride, trust that she will be late.
That doesn't make her a bad person.
Because she is consistently supportive,
invite her over for coffee later when the time of her arrival doesn't matter
& her support while you wait for the test results will.
People are neither good nor bad.
They are made up of both positive & negative behaviors.
TRUST: THE DEFINITION in 5 WORDS
TRUST is REALITY that is CLEAR, CONSISTENT, INTERNAL & NEUTRAL.
is not is you seeing the many
of or in individual behaviors
another both positive & negative that
individual. combine to make a person
I trust my mother to be late. I trust my mother to be creative.
A reality that has a negative value. A reality that has a positive value.
Neither cancels the other. It creates choice.
It allows acceptance of the person's positive behaviors
& rejection of the person's negative behaviors without a rejection of the person.
Next week the Language of Trust.
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