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THIS WEEK: Rituals/Holidays/Family/Relatives
Elevator 28 detailed the difference between family & relatives.
After a discussion of Rituals & Holidays we'll weave it all together.
I have a friend who abhors the word ritual.
Yet Rituals - weddings, christenings, graduations, funerals -
are an important part of our humanity.
I believe it is significant that many of our rituals have withered
at the same time that that so much social confusion and decline has set in.
Definition: Rituals - events that signify change or commeration.
Rituals are neither positive nor negative.
They have no evil or good values attached to them.
Our motives at the base of the ritual determine the values.
Rituals are benchmarks.
They show us where we came from and where we are going.
They confirm that some things do not change while others do.
Rituals mark the turning points in our lives. They form symbolic celebrations.
Think of how you feel (or would feel) when no one wished you happy birthday.
It is the reason for weddings not just a marriage.
It is the public celebratory christening of your new child
& the graduation spectacular as that child graduates.
Holiday: Days created to celebrate a person or event.
Start with New Year's Day & moving through the year to & past Valentine's,
St. Patrick's, April 1st, Memorial, July 4th, Labor, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Kwanzaa & New Year's Eve with Ramadan, Passover & countless others.
As I write this in May 2016
I am in Maine about to hold my 30th (or so) Derby Party with my best friend Pam.
It is also this year an "open house" because she just moved.
All of these opportunities to celebrate & create the rituals that go with them.
Mint Julips for Derby, American flags for Memorial Day, Fireworks for the 4th.
Relatives are people you are accidently related to by birth adoption or marriage.
Family are people who share your interests & values &
treat you with love, kindness respect & honor.
When you don't like a relative or they don't treat you well
you are under NO obligation to attend their Christmas gathering.
Simply say: "I have other plans". No detail needed. (Review Elevator #27)
Your other plans may be to sit at home with a good book or go out with friends.
You have not only the right to chose what you do & with whom you do it,
you also have an obligation to yourself to do what is best for you.
I hope visiting my website & reading Elevators is becoming a Ritual for you.
so long until Elevator #30 opens its door -Marta
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